Wow. It’s already been almost 1 month since I married the man of my dreams. How is that even possible?! In the midst of wedding planning and working a full time job the blog has slipped through the cracks but I’m back!
Let me tell you something, wedding planning is not for the faint of heart. It’s an absurd amount of work but I can now say that it was all worth it. I was not the bride who had multiple melt downs or out of the norm drama and for that I feel blessed. If I have one piece of advice for brides and their families it’s to shift your mindset (if needed). I made a promise to myself when wedding planning began that I would not ruin our day for myself. People get SO wrapped up in the details and making sure that everything is perfect that they miss out on their day. What a waste! I was marrying my best friend and the love of my life. I wasn’t about to go and ruin one second of that experience! Did things go wrong? Absolutely. Did I blink an eye? No. It was the PERFECT day full of so much love and excitement. I’m so grateful to the many people who worked their tails off to make sure that everything was perfect because I most definitely did not do it on my own. You all know who you are and I love you to the moon. I couldn’t have gotten through the day without each of you!
There was one bittersweet lesson that we did learn during our wedding planning process. You really see who cares about investing in your future. There will be people who stand out and surprise you in ways you thought unimaginable. I suppose that can and probably will go both positively and negatively but that’s life and for us it was more of the former. Max and I kept saying to each other, “weddings make or break who your future people are.” We have so many amazing friends and family who celebrated with us and those sent us love from afar. My cup runneth over. We have some amazing people and I feel so blessed! When you set your focus on that, everything else seems to fade away.
My one-month-in realization: The one thing no one plans for is the days after the wedding. If you are going to over plan something, make it that week to two weeks after. Holy Cow. E x h a u s t i n g. It took us almost a week to get back into a routine and two weeks to get our apartment semi back to normal. To be honest I feel completely lazy after having a wedding on my mind for the past 9 months. My passion for cooking is at an all time low, (If you don’t believe me I can probably dig up my Target receipt from last night to prove that one real fast) my sweet, sweet husband has dealt with my accumulating pile of (now cleaned up) clothes on the bedroom floor, and let’s not even get me started on my legal name transfer and bank account status. As long as my social media is accurate that all that matters, right? And everyone who has changed their name ever said “AMEN!” The wife life is not glamorous, nor perfect and it comes with more annoying work than anticipated. BUT, none of that is important. It truly is fun. I wake up next to my husband every morning and go to bed next to him every night. We laugh and lounge, go through the peaks and valleys, pray for and encourage each other and that’s what matters. Our season of lacking to cook will not matter in 50 years but our reliance on God and one another will. We’re making memories and writing our story and I love our life.
Life is a journey. Embrace it and do you. I’m enjoying every day of it because I think this is the best one I’ll ever go on.
xo – Mary